couples therapy

"A crisis is a terrible thing to waste."
Paul Romer

Conflict doesn't have to mean the beginning of the end - it can be the start of a real partnership. It's a signal that your system might be ready for an authentic connection. If you are motivated to attune to what is happening in the crisis, a more honest relationship is waiting on the other side.

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While many seek couples therapy for romantic partnerships, relationship therapy is for any two people navigating a bond. Whether you are siblings, a parent and adult child, or close friends, you deserve a safe space to find your way back to a more genuine intimacy.

Schema Couples Therapy focuses on emotional reconnection while preventing escalation and alienation. Over the course of therapy, we identify the underlying self-defeating patterns behind your relationship problems, foster compassion and intimacy, and introduce solutions. You can gain a good understanding of your experience on a personal and couple level, and work towards long-term improvement.

What themes can I help you with?
 

• difficult communication and recurring conflicts

• avoidance

• resentment, hostility

• neglect, stonewalling, disconnection

• lack of intimacy

• relationship crises

• compatibility issues

• preparing for big decisions such as marriage, starting a family, moving to a new place, etc.

• combative separation

• negotiating consentual non-monogamy

• coparenting for separated couples

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What can you expect in couples therapy?
 

The first one to three sessions serve as an assessment period. During this time, I focus on understanding the unique dynamic between you. 

Once I have a clear picture, I will share my professional understanding of the patterns occurring in your relationship. I think of my role as a compassionate mirror. While I offer a warm and empathetic environment, I also believe in kind honesty. I will gently confront the behaviors that are keeping you stuck, helping you gain the clarity necessary to move forward with new tools.

As we carry on, I will offer active interventions and specific techniques designed to help you interact differently in the moment. This work becomes most effective if you bring vulnerability, mutual empathy and personal accountability. I know that change can feel challenging, that's why we will always leave space to discuss difficulties as they arise in real-time. This allows us to adjust our course to ensure the therapy remains relevant and aligned with your needs.

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Since our goal is essentially for me to become "obsolete", at-home practices will be an essential part of your therapy process. You will be encouraged to apply our session work to your daily life, ensuring that new habits take root. In the long-term, this will help you acquire tools to resolve your relationship issues without my assistance.

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